Tuesday, October 06, 2009

Rain is here

Rain is here.


Hi my friends and family, how are you all? Things may not always go the way we want but there are always hope and faith that hold us hanging around. I wish you all doing well.

One of those important things that help us to be more responsible and lead a more meaningful life is the born of new birth. I'm happy, excited, scared and unsure to have become the father of Rain LEW(刘) Xinyu(歆雨). She was born on Sept 26, 2009. I thank God and the force of the universe and all the beings for her willingness to come to this sinful family, especially since I've sinned so much to have deserved her.

When I was at the National Registration Department to register the birth of Rain, I came across this poster board on a wall, facing public sitting and waiting for registration of both birth and death. It goes:


“Tahniah kerana menerima cahaya mata. Takziah atas kehilangan orang tersayang” which goes into:
“Congratulations because receiving light [of] eyes. Condolences upon loss [of] people beloved [the most]. ” which is pretty self-explanatory.

I was a little taken by surprise; that people waiting for registrations of both birth and death are together in a big hall, sitting side by side. Many parents brought along the newborn babies with them for registration of birth. And there were other people who seemed sad and indifferent/cold about the surroundings. I assume they were there for death registration.

On second thought, I said “why not?” Living and dying have always been in pair. All things material have life span. We come and we go when the time is ripe and right.

There is a saying:
“生亦何欢,死亦何惧,千年万年,白驹过隙。”
“Sheng Yi He Huan, Si Yi He Ju, Qian Nian Wan Nian, Bai Ju Guo Xi.” which translates into:
“Birth yet why joyful, death yet why fearful, thousand years ten-thousand years, white speedy-horse through small-gap.”

Why being happy and joyful having new birth or being alive? Why being fearful and sad when approaching dead? Tens of thousands of years may be a long time, but it's a blink of an eye like the speedy white horse passing through a narrow gap.

We may be philosophical and indifferent about birth and death, however, as mortal beings, we for sure cherish life/birth more than death. In a way it's similar to the way how different we treat our children versus elderly. It's all so wrong to treat our children and grandchildren like jewels but our parents and grandparents like dirt. For the jewels were from the dirt soil too, at one time.

Therefore the right attitude would be to treat our mothers, fathers, grandparents the way we treat our little princes and princesses. Coming life and approaching death are natural phenomenon. Why favour one another?

If you manage to finish up to here, I thank you for your perseverance and apologize if you find the piece uneventful. This is a little something that came to me at these moments; may or may not be worthwhile. And I haven't had much time to organise things better.


In my life of remaining days I wish to become a good father, a good coach, and a good friend of Rain. But right before that, I myself have to be a good example, to be a good son, a good companion, and a good friend to my mother, Madam Hoo Sew Pong . My die-hard wishful will.

Rain, welcome to the sad and chaotic world. Let's all make it a worthwhile journey.


Regards,

John LEW

13 comments:

dora said...

hello there Rain!!!! :)

Kerry said...

Rain is so cute!!恭喜John!!

Anonymous said...

恭喜 恭喜!!!你也當爸爸了呀?!
有小baby的感覺很特別呢!!!

The Runner, Dreamer, Observer, Seeker said...

After the rain, come clear skies and sunshine...
Hello Rain!
Welcome to this journey called LIFE. May your arrival bring blue skies and sunshine to all who will come to know you. Live well and enjoy the journey.
Congratulations to you, John & Louise! May you cherish every moment of being Daddy and Mommy to this little bundle of joy and value her not for what she is worth, but for what she represents.

Wah, I suddenly realized that I sound like some old folk! Haha. Take Care.

Anonymous said...

恭喜恭喜!

Eric Pan

Bonny Li said...

Hello DR JOHN,

Congratulations to u n yr family.

Boony

Yoke Y said...

Congrats, John. You'll be a good father, for sure... :@)

Anonymous said...

Hi John,

Congratulations. Your girl is big girl.

Take Care,
William

John J. C. Lew said...

Hi there,

I wanna thank you all for your kind words and many are also sending gifts for Rain. I can't help but cautioned that let's keep things simple and help contribute toward a few natural disasters that have taken places over the last few weeks.

There are also many notes sent in from E-mails and smses to which I tried to reply one at a time. In case I failed to do so, please pardon me.

Things will never come to an end and we shall work harder toward a society that everyone lives in peace with one another.

In peace we believe.

John LEW

Anonymous said...

一切的美好人生就从这一刻开始,好好的表现你人生舞台角色,你一定是最棒的。

John J. C. Lew said...

On stage we perform and strive our best, for one another we do that.

Let's keep up the momentum!

John

sylvia said...

Hello Rain!
Happy birthday to you!

Hi Dr John and Louise!
祈望小甜心能永远带给您们快乐与光彩的人生。。。

sylvia

John J. C. Lew said...

Hi Sylvia,

Thank you for your kind words.

For you and all beings, Rain's doing fine. She has now 4 teeth and crawling all the time like little worm. Sometimes she wanted to get up and stand walk but her body is probably too heavy for her to do so yet.

Rain's full of emotional and active all the time, unlike her daddy who's stagnant and a stone-like thinker.

A few days back my family went to a vegetarian restaurant (where else, Rain's also vegetarian) to celebrate her birthday. Not so much of my kind of activities but I went with the flow with family.

There are many things I did wrong and I'm still doing wrong. It takes a man or a woman of steel will to be determinded and not going wrong ways...

I must learn harder!

I'm sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.

John LEW